It’s Sunday and it makes me very happy to have friends who show interest in being guest bloggers. Jaron has previously written on the blog. I am so jazzed he came to me to offer up another entry. If you haven’t watched the episode of How I Met Your Mother that he is referring to… I highly recommend you do this NOW (or in the next few hours Thanks Jaron for guest blogging!
So, this week on How I Met Your Mother, one of the best sitcoms on TV, a new term was introduced to me. “Graduation Goggles”. The term was in reference to Marshall and his new decision to leave GNB. The term can be used to describe the feeling one gets when they decide to end something (in this case, Marshall’s employment), and it suddenly becomes unclear as to what the negative connotation was of the situation for which you are ending.
I instantly fell in love with the term as a great way to describe the emotional state that one is in when faced with these situations. For those that know me, you know that I have moved a lot since college, and, when the opportunity is presented to me to take a new role in a new city, I am psyched. Then, usually a few days before or after I make the leap, Graduation Goggles set in, and I suddenly realize that things aren’t that bad.
For those of you that know me, you also know that I tend to go on my fair share of dates, searching for the one that is out there for me. This is where the term Graduation Goggles is more apropos. Graduation Goggles usually comes to me in between relationships, where I take the time to reflect on past women from my life, and realize that it wasn’t as bad as it seemed, and I made a mistake. And then someone else comes around and takes my mind off of things, and changes my focus, and I forget about it; at least for a while.
While reflecting on this term, I also think back to some great advice from many good friends, and that is:
1. Everything happens for a reason
2.If it was meant to be, it will
3.Seconds never work in a relationship
All of the sudden, the reason the term is what it is makes sense. I think back to high school, and all of the yearbooks that I signed those last few days. The most famous words are “Keep in touch”. C’mon. The truth is, for most of the folks that I wrote that down in their book of memories, and visa versa, PLEASE DON’T! But at the time of nostalgia, it made sense.
At the time of nostalgia, it makes sense to remember the good from the situation (in fact, the song that they were playing in the background on the show was Sarah McLachlin’s I Will Remember You), but things happen for a reason, and if it was meant to be, it will. Graduation Goggles are only temporary, and you can’t discount the value that you as a person bring to the situation. Don’t forget that you are worth what you make yourself worth, and if you spend your time looking out of Graduation Goggles, you won’t be able to see and experience all that life has to offer you right in front of your face.